Wednesday 18 June 2014

Over the next week, when people were getting back into routines following the Christmas holidays, we were having to plan and arrange Charlies funeral. We were also having to make appointments to go and register Charlies birth and death. Life seemed very unfair.

Carrie had become unwell following discharge from hospital, with an infection, and we struggled to get the midwife to come out and check her. It felt as if no one was interested in coming to see her as she didn't have Charlie with her. Carrie ended up having only 2 midwife visits, disgusting really when you think she was still experiencing everything any new mum experiences. She needed to talk to the professionals to ask if what she was feeling and experiencing was normal, but no professionals came.

The vicar from the local church came out to see Carrie as he was going to be carrying out Charlies funeral. He was a really lovely man and explained everything to Carrie. He told her that the day would be exactly what she wanted it to be, and she was in charge of how it went. He told her that her and Charlie were the most important people on that day and he was there to make it as smooth as was possible. He managed to make Carrie smile on a couple of occasions, which was lovely to see. Carrie had had very little to smile about but she showed amazing courage and strength. She wanted the day to be a celebration of Charlies short life.

Carrie chose the music and songs she wanted playing, the pictures she wanted in the chapel, the colour she wanted people to wear and the clothes her little boy was to wear. She was focusing on making the day the best she could to honor her little angel. Watching her go through all this you could not help but feel immense pride. She was a 19 year old young lady having to deal with the hardest thing in the world. A lot of people would have crumbled but not Carrie, she stayed strong.






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